A Malaysian woman on Threads has sparked a heated debate after advising against the expectation that children must give monthly money to their parents.
“Stop normalising children having to give monthly money to their parents to the point that they cannot even save for their own wedding or to buy a house,” wrote @jasmineesyz.
Her post quickly drew mixed reactions from netizens. Some defended the practice as a gesture of gratitude rather than a burden.
kitakopidankamera commented: “Not every child giving money to their parents is burdened. For some, it’s just a small way to say thank you for everything they sacrificed to raise us.”
hfzt.amani_ added: “Give according to your ability. If you can afford RM50, then give RM50. Parents do not really want our money. When we give part of our salary, there is blessing in it.”
Others shared a more cautionary perspective. shakeyraomar wrote: “Sis, before donating your income to others, the best charity is your own family. Children give not because parents cannot afford, but to seek blessings. Stop giving carelessly, or life may feel harder.”
bell_nurul also defended giving: “We do not become poor by giving, even a little. Blessings come from prioritising the parents who raised us. If they could raise us, we can give them a little once we are working.”
Some netizens suggested a balanced approach. honey_berry93 said: “Parents should not demand beyond their children’s ability. Even RM100 a month can be meaningful. The best parents understand limitations, and the best children make their parents happy.”
najihah_ahmad45 added: “Normalise sharing your rezeki according to your ability. It doesn’t have to be cash monthly. Treat them to a meal, buy groceries, or gifts. Focus on meaningful ways, not just money.”
The thread highlights the ongoing debate on filial responsibility and financial boundaries in Malaysian households.
