A touching letter shared by a netizen on Xuan has moved countless readers online. The writer, a 32-year-old woman, revealed that ever since her father was paralyzed and lost his ability to speak in a car accident eight years ago, she and her elderly mother have been his full-time caregivers. “I feel like I haven’t lived for myself in years,” she confessed, adding that her older brother has not been involved in caring for their father, leaving the burden mostly on her shoulders.
She expressed her frustration and helplessness — torn between duty and exhaustion. “My mom is already 76 and still insists she can manage everything. I know she’s tired too. But when I think about leaving everything to her alone, I can’t bring myself to do it.” She admitted that she’s losing touch with friends, her career has stalled, and her personal life feels like it’s on pause. “Sometimes I just wonder how long I can keep going,” she wrote.
The story sparked an emotional outpouring of support and empathy from netizens:
“Outsiders can never truly understand the pressure of being a caregiver. You deserve to have your own life too — your brother should step up.”
“Have you talked to your brother? If he can’t help physically, he should at least share the cost for a caregiver or nursing home. You’ll break down if this goes on.”
“This is typical of families with gender bias — daughters are expected to sacrifice everything. But what you’re doing, heaven will see. Don’t let this destroy you. Take care of your own health and peace of mind.”
The post has resonated with many who share similar experiences — torn between love, responsibility, and self-preservation. Many netizens urged her to seek emotional support and reminded her that taking care of herself is just as important as caring for her loved ones.
