A woman in Taiwan has been granted a divorce after uncovering shocking details about her husband’s secret lifestyle, including his crossdressing activities and participation in sex parties with other men. The emotional discovery left her devastated, ultimately leading her to end the marriage.
According to court documents, the couple, who married in 2015 and have two children, experienced a near absence of intimacy after tying the knot. The wife told the court that her husband never initiated sexual activity and only reluctantly complied when she insisted. After the birth of their second child, he reportedly refused any form of physical intimacy altogether, causing her significant emotional distress.
The truth began to unravel in April 2023, when the wife discovered photos on her husband’s phone showing him dressed in women’s clothing. He had also joined multiple LINE chat groups for crossdressers, including “Crossdressing Exchange Chat” and “Crossdresser Selfies.” She further uncovered his activity on Twitter, where he interacted with others who shared similar interests and arranged meetups for sex parties at motels.
The husband eventually admitted to enjoying crossdressing and even hoped his wife would accept his gender expression. He began wearing women’s clothing at home, even in front of their children, a move that the wife found deeply unsettling and deceptive, especially since he had concealed this part of his identity prior to their marriage.
Adding to her distress, the husband had also posted offensive comments about her in a Facebook group called “Kao Bei Marriage Discussion Forum,” using derogatory terms and even threatening to take his own life if she revealed his secret. He once climbed to the rooftop of their building in a suicide attempt, which she managed to prevent.
By January 2023, the couple had separated. The court noted that their relationship had deteriorated beyond repair, with ongoing conflict and emotional distance affecting their children. In October 2023, they signed a divorce agreement.
The Changhua District Court granted the divorce, citing irreconcilable differences. Due to the husband’s aggressive behavior—such as using fear or corporal punishment to discipline the children and interfering with their communication with their mother—the court awarded full custody to the wife. The husband was ordered to pay NT$12,056 (about RM1,800) per child per month in child support.
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