A netizen has shared her growing concerns to Xuan about her long-term relationship as she prepares for marriage, sparking discussions online about intimacy and compatibility in long-term partnerships.
The woman, who has been living with her boyfriend since university for 11 years, said they have even set a wedding date for next year. However, she revealed that she is increasingly uncomfortable with his sexual behavior. “His needs are very high, almost every day, but I really don’t have much desire,” she said.
In the early days of their relationship, she explained, they were able to compromise and explore intimacy together, fueled by youth and passion. But now, after a long day at work, she prefers to relax quietly, scroll through her phone, or take a shower, rather than engage in sexual activity.
She described her boyfriend as physically attractive, with a toned, muscular body from regular gym workouts. “Aside from sex, everything else — gym, travel, dating — is enjoyable. But after sex, I feel physically drained,” she added. Despite his playful teasing and attempts to initiate intimacy, she said she has started feeling increasingly resistant.
Her concerns escalated after discovering that he had purchased several sex toys, including items meant for prostate stimulation. She also found evidence online suggesting that he searches for content with male-male sexual dynamics, which left her questioning whether his sexual orientation may have shifted.
Now in their 30s, she is conflicted about proceeding with marriage. “We’re not getting any younger. I don’t know if I should marry him,” she confessed.
The story has resonated with many readers online, prompting discussions about sexual compatibility, honesty, and communication in long-term relationships.
